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Kim Tait's avatar

Hi Vanessa, I knew you a long time ago when you taught Bass at WSC in Auckland and I was a class music teacher there. I left music teaching, having become a mainly solo dad again. It's always been a toss up between parenting, saxophone playing, and earning money just to get by - no house buying, partying or holidays. Making music is therapy that I fit in where I can. I admire you for pursuing a career which has taken you across the world - you should be proud of the music you've made and the experiences you've had, and your thoughts about these are valuable, thanks for sharing them.

My oldest daughter, Madeleine, now in her '30s, has followed a career in The Arts (acting, singing, painting), and faces similar questions/choices/challenges/Lows and Highs. I'll send her a link to your writing, your thoughts. I hope you can meet up when you next visit London, Vanessa. Although she's primarily a Shakespearian actress and Jazz singer, she formed an alt-folk band with a fellow actor, Joey Batey, called The Amazing Devil. They were number one on Bandcamp for a few weeks back in November. Shakespearian musos - it's heavy, but still fun. https://theamazingdevil.bandcamp.com/track/drinking-song-for-the-socially-anxious https://theamazingdevil.bandcamp.com/track/wild-blue-yonder https://theamazingdevil.bandcamp.com/track/the-calling Cheers, and all the best, Kim Tait.

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Laura Sawosko's avatar

I can definitely appreciate your insight regarding a balanced life. It truly wasn’t until my 40’s that I understood the price we pay for a late night of drinking with friends. I was frustrated when I realized that everything came with a cost.

Because I have a unique life with two homes and two very different occupations, I have always thought of each year as a book with two defining chapters. It is sometimes difficult for my loved ones to understand my need to complete each chapter in my perfectionist way.

One chapter focuses on family and financial stability, while the other focuses on creative success and moving forward in my music career. I am also trying to merge the two more successfully and continue my musical presence.

My Mother has always taught me that we are a product of our decisions. I also believe a balanced life is the key to success and happiness. I often access my life in depth and I completely agree with your sentiments.

After another 8 hours of deep cleaning the restaurant and being a caretaker for my Father when I get home, I told my Mom that we have to find balance this Summer. Work, work out, relax, create and rest……. repeat.

I also believe in the reward policy. Work hard, enjoy a glass of wine with a sunset. Always treat yourself to something small and meaningful.

I pray we all have a very blessed and balanced summer. :)

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